Read The Label…

I have a vested interest in artists. Artists of all kinds, but in this post I want to specifically talk about recording artists. 

I need to say a couple of things. 

In my circle, I am blessed to know some of the illest MCs and vocalists in my generation. Vocalists, lyricists, songwriters, musicians…just all around beautiful creators of game changing style. But you know what gets my blood heated? When a “record label” desires to sign one of these dope artists, and then have no idea what to do with them, how to manage them, or how to listen to them. I feel the same way about major recording artists who have the resources to do all types of monumental amazingness but somehow end up either put on the shelf or stuck with lazy lyrics and a sleepy image. 

Back to the message at hand though…that’s the stuff I don’t like. Most of my homies make music from the heart and really believe in what they are doing. They surround themselves with people who see their vision and want to see them succeed and share that vision with the world around them. They surround themselves with people (for the most part) who have their best interest at heart. 

All I am trying to say is this is frustrating. I wish labels would pursue artists they actually believe in and want to support. It’s like a really precious expensive cut of steak. You may marinate or season it and then throw it on the grill but ultimately its the cut of the steak that makes the steak legit. It’s the quality of the steak, you just brought out it’s beauty. This is what I need record labels to do better at. Instead, it’s either all about making money off of a “hit” song or a mediocre single OR an artist and their talents are being held hostage with no resources and no attention being paid to them. What the heck for? It’s kind of like when my brother told me he wanted the new Jordans in order to wear them to school once to let everyone know he had them. *facepalm*

Beautiful art needs air to breathe. Artists…please be very very careful who you rock with and who you sign with. Read those contracts even if it takes you a month. Get a lawyer that you can trust. In the end, it will be worth it. Creative control is worth it. Authenticity is worth it. Sometimes, going into these contracts, you have no idea it’s gonna be dumb. You have no idea things are gonna go downhill because they talk such a good game in the beginning. I feel like there’s an answer for that too. See how interested they are in your work and who you are as a person and try to negotiate a contract that has your protection in mind, their investments, and some leeway to not be stuck with them forever in debt if the deal goes sideways. How fair is it that you do all the work and only see a small fraction of the money you made? (provided you’re that type of artist. This stuff matters.) Go talk to some other artists who have worked with them, give a fair investigation for yourself before signing away. Don’t be so anxious to sign to a label that you end up wasting two-three years of your energy on just trying to get them to look at you. 

I remember finding out all of the hassle, stress and pressure JoJo went through in order to get out of her contract with her label. It was dumb. This outrageously gifted vocalist stuck in limbo all these years because they wouldn’t let her out of her contract nor would they support her work or let her be herself. Hated it. I’m glad she’s free now. You can hear the freedom in her latest musical contributions. Amen for that. Emily King is another example. The label wanted her to be someone she isn’t. Her music sounds like EMILY now. Free. 

If you’re independent, make the most of it. Train hard, work hard, surround yourself with truthful folks who love you and won’t let you do something that’s not smart. Money is wonderful but if you love it too much, you’ll get lost. As an independent artist, yea things can be expensive sometimes and it’s an uphill battle at times but guess what? It all belongs to you. You don’t owe anyone anything and you don’t have to fight for a spot. Learn all you can learn about your craft, find a mentor, get in the library and hone your skills. 

If you get signed, that’s dope. Make sure it’s smart for both parties. If you don’t get signed, that’s dope. Push your limits, break the rules, and build a brand and a sound that’s going to mean something later. Build something that will teach, that will make us feelsomething. Something. And for goodness sake, tell the truth always. Whatever it is. Build it with the tools you have now. Don’t wait, because time waits for nothing. 

Oh! Don’t forget to read those labels if you want to know what it’s made of. It’s right in front of your face if you open your eyes.

He’s Just Not That Into You

This week, I’ve been watching a few shows with my sister. One of them being Love & Hip Hop Hollywood. Now, I’ve heard that a lot of these shows are scripted, so I get it. However, I bet some of that dialogue is legit and I know for a fact that some of the philosophies of life these women have is the norm.

I speak about the women because I truly care about the women. Watching these shows, there is a common theme with a lot of them that makes me irritated and sad at the same time.

Time and time again, you see the ladies on the show, minus maybe two of them, basically not getting the memo that the men they are dating or dated aren’t interested in them. 

At least two of the women are trying to convince the man that he should make her his official girlfriend. All of this while knowing these men are known to be “playas”. Not to mention, these men have verbally said they don’t want to be tied down, they enjoy going from woman to woman, and are comfortable with that set up. To see these women basically begging is disheartening and frankly just dumb. 

It’s some of the dumbest mess I’ve ever seen. 

Don’t get me wrong, I am not throwing shade but what I AM doing is saying, “Baby, he ain’t worth the heartache. He told you what he wants, and you won’t believe him. Move on to something better.” That’s all I want to say. These guys are telling these girls out here that they don’t want anything other than friends with benefits and these women keep getting upset whena he doesn’t want a relationship. But he told you though. Come on now. 

Maybe it’s because when many of us were kids, if a boy pushed you down or teased you, somewhere somehow an adult told us it was because he liked us. SMH and now those kids have grown up and we are all out of our minds.

The other situation is the ex boyfriend who has stated that he doesn’t want anything to do with her outside of being cordial and she insists on being disrespectful, violent, and showing up reminiscing about why he doesn’t want to be with her. It has been 8 months with no contact with each other. For the sake of your sanity and your heart, I need you to let it go. 

When a man says he doesn’t want more than a friendship or a sexship…that’s exactly what he means. And why should he change that relationship anyway if he’s already getting what he wants from you? 

Unless he’s actually interested, it’s just on to the next girl. You, and only you, have control over your body and who you give your heart to. If he breaks it and tramples it underfoot, yea he’s responsible but he did tell you he was a bulldozer. 

I get it, I really do. Every woman wants to be loved. Some of us want to be loved by one particular guy and him only. Some of us only want the flashy guy because he’s got money and influence. 

Bottom line is: When he says he doesn’t want a relationship, STOP translating that to mean he loves you and wants to marry you tomorrow. STOP translating that to mean that he just has to be convinced of what he really wants because ya’ll have been messing around with each other for years now. You have an adult decision to make. If he wants you, he won’t let anything stop him from being with you. He will remove all obstacles. Get you some friends who got good sense and won’t let you be dumb. Listen to those friends. It’s gonna be painful but, in the long run at least your heart won’t be collecting dust and debris in some mans treasure chest instead of beating in your chest.

He doesn’t deserve the honor. 

These Words Are Offensive. So Stoppit.


Trailer trash. “Blonde”. Ghetto. Nigga/Nigger. Chinks/Ching Ching. Cracker. 7-Eleven/Quik-E-Mart clerk.

There are so many others.

We can change this by simply changing our thinking and calling out anyone who sees fit to exercise their desires to be offensive. How do you change your thinking?…

The Jonah Complex


I remember a few years ago, I was in a bible study. Someone texted me about two celebrities getting into a fight. I remember jumping online to see what happened and being shocked and appalled and sad. Naturally, my thoughts go to the fact that we are in a bible study, these are two people who are…

"Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by this some have entertained angels without knowing it."
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Michael Brown and Ferguson

I will write about this. As soon as I’m clear on what I’d like to say.

I know everyone and their mom is talking about it on so many levels from various angles.

But, I will write. I will exercise the freedom I’ve been given while I have it. The freedom so many activists and black revolutionaries before me fought and gave their lives (of course through Gods grace) to afford me.

To be continued

Sneakpeak of the Daddy&Me photo shoot I did with my honeys! 

Sneakpeak of the Daddy&Me photo shoot I did with my honeys! 


I really want to make sure I say what I want to say to the person I want to hear it.

What’s the message when we get to the end of the story?

Those two things are very important to me.

The story matters. It matters separately and as a unit.

No real message, no real point.


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New EP “LoveInSummer” by yours truly.

I’m talking about my husband and a bit about my son on the last song (really just a tiny tiny intro about my son).

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